People are different. Some are losers, some are champions. Study the champions. Meditate on the biblical accounts of David, Abraham, Joseph and the apostle Paul. Read the biographies of great men.
Readers become leaders. Read, read, read.
“Who through faith subdued kingdoms, wrought righteousness, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, 34 Quenched the violence of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, out of weakness were made strong, waxed valiant in fight, turned to flight the armies of the aliens.”